The kids are growing up so fast, how do I process emotions?
The kids are growing up so fast…what do I do with these emotions?
I’ve become acutely aware of how fast childhood is going for my girls. I sensed the days of my lap having children in it were passing, almost imperceptibly.
The heartache I knew would follow those days stalked me.
It is a difficult season to have your children outgrow your physical body.
To push away as they mature, becoming young adults, yet needing to be able to jump back in when life gets tough was… is…natural.
Mentally I get it.
But the longing stays. My body still aches with the remembrance of the cuddles of my children.
Exciting things happen as kids are growing up
There are new things now, exciting, fascinating dynamics in our mother/child relationships. These current experiences are wonderful too, in a different way.
I enjoy their developing personalities, the strength of the wings that are starting to lift them away.
The empty nest comes quickly. Do not squander your most precious privilege of participating in the lives of your children.” ―Alan Hedquist
How do I deal with my child growing up?
My body remembers what my mind can forget.
The precious feel of a child in your arms, the smell of their hair, the feel of grubby little fingers holding your cheeks, the “i yuv you” lingo.
My physical longing is my reminder to pray thankful words to God. For the chance. For the good days, and with some distance, even for the difficult ones.
My wings are also gaining maturity. I will fly into a new season along with my children.
Not after them, although I pray they’ll always be in sight, but into the winds of change God has in mind for this woman.
My lap empties and my wings begin to spread.
Parents rarely let go of their children, so children let go of them. They move on. They move away. The moments that used to define them – a mother’s approval, a father’s nod – are covered by moments of their own accomplishments. It is not until much later, as the skin sags and the heart weakens, that children understand; their stories, and all their accomplishments, sit atop the stories of their mothers and fathers, stones upon stones, beneath the waters of their lives —Mitch Albom
Kids are growing up, but you have so much to look forward to
For now, I will stretch my arms around my children as far as I can reach, for as long as I am able.
I’ll sneak sniffs of their freshly washed hair, and remember…the years of a full lap.
Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory― Dr Seuss
The days are going quickly; each one seems to bring new ideas into the imaginations of the young women that my daughters have become.
Disclosure: I only recommend products I do/would use myself. This post may contain affiliate links that at NO additional cost to you, may earn me a small commission to help support this blog. Read full privacy policy here.
