Living paycheck to paycheck? Finding hope when you’re broke

Living paycheck to paycheck? Finding hope when you’re broke

Are you strapped financially, and drained from living paycheck to paycheck?

That has always been us too. A change is happening for the first time, which gives us hope for a small tool to combat debt and unforeseen medical costs.

But, money really can’t buy happiness. Not in the ways that matter.

There are a few surprising benefits to being broke.

Hear me out… few of us would CHOOSE broke, but when we are there?

With close consideration, we can find a few gems in the seasons of “not enough”. Extra money can cause false security.

I am in NO way downplaying the difficulties of hard times, but instead suggesting ways to look for the spark of hope in the darkness.

What to do when living paycheck to paycheck (or less)?

Necessity forces creativity– Small amounts of income can develop resourcefulness. A spirit of making things work with what you have. Being broke and living broke don’t have to be the same thing. Having a nice home that felt comfortable to us, to our guests, has always been important to me. I learned to do that with very few dollars or none at all.

Be Creative- make your house a home no matter what your resources are. My mom used to tease me that I created a home faster than anyone she’d ever seen. Each move sharpened that skill and gave me the ability to nest like the best, without the cost.

Unexpected Provision– God will provide, cliché? Listen, we’ve had utility shut-offs, no food, no job but yet…yet, here we are. We made it, you will too.  Provision comes in a million ways we can’t see until later.

There are bits and pieces of help around us that form a net of safety. It doesn’t feel like that when we are falling, but it doesn’t mean the net isn’t being built.

Value of together– When you are scared of losing it all, you become better at evaluating what is yours, truly yours, that can’t be taken away.  When we worried about losing “it all”, it being material things really, in desperation we learned to dig our heels in and claim our life back.

Practice saying “No matter if we lost _______, they can’t take ________ away”. For us, we knew that regardless of circumstances, they couldn’t take away the joy in our family. That was ours to keep, and we fought for that. Me and my man? Us and our kids? No bill collector can take that away.

When you got nothin’– You realize you have God. Always, right there with you. And that is a big something! He goes before you and follows behind. We didn’t always see this, though we believed in God. We had to hit rock bottom to realize He’d been there all along. And that He really was what we needed most.

Living within your income

Make the most of what you DO have– What do you think of when you read the word Goodwill? If I’d never been broke it is doubtful I would have ventured into a thrift store. There is an excellent chance of finding clothes for your kids, a table for your kitchen, books for your shelf…anything necessary can be found cheap. Even better than cheap? Free.

If you came to my house you’d feel comfortable, and if you made the mistake of saying how nice something is, I might get a passionate fire in my eyes and corner you with stories of how I got it free and redid this or that.

And how about our true necessities? Are your kids healthy tonight? Are their stomachs full? Do you have heat and water? The lower our spirits, the harder we need to search for the stuff that really meets our basic and most necessary needs. And then, live in gratitude.

This alone can change the way we see our entire set of circumstances!

Avoid borrowing–  When money is tight, the temptation is there to just charge things. Make payments. Sometimes there really seems to be no other choice. Use caution, the terms might be greater than they seem today. We are servants today to lenders of yesterday, and it hurts. Really bad. Proverbs 22:7 The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is a servant to the lender.

Been there, coveted that, got the t-shirt– Listen, please. We’ve been there. Been there. Can I share a small piece of wisdom here? Stop thinking So and So has it all together. That their lives are easy while we struggle unfairly.

Easier? Perhaps…but maybe not like it seems. If we spend time cultivating our own lives, we enjoy it infinitely more than wishing it was like someone else’s.

(Here is a practical post regarding what to DO immediately when you lose your job.)

Living paycheck to paycheck can be complex

Being broke is all about perspective. All the gurus in the world, don’t know YOUR unique story.

For example, my husband has a management job.  It comes with an enormous amount of stress and responsibility. The irony is, that there are many employees who assume he is in a cushy office and makes bank. Lucky him.

Comparatively, he does make more and yes, has an office.  Those are the visible things that an employee might see.

What they don’t see is how hard we struggled to get him there.

We have sacrificed in ways that many won’t understand, been torn from every “security” unwillingly, transferred without choice.

That he started at the lowest possible position, just like them, and labored to get that office. Nothing was handed to him. Nothing.

And the business world can be cutthroat; people will throw you under the bus. Who envies that?

(We found they sack those who make more than they can hire a newbie for. Read that story here)

(free PDF printable of this here)

Extend grace to people living paycheck to paycheck

We do a disservice to people who have “more” than we do by assuming we know their lives.

You can’t judge people for what you see for two seconds–Jim Breuer

Coveting what anyone else has? Total waste of time.

Finding the sweet spots in the midst of being broke is a practice, but totally attainable.

(Check out this post by The Budget Mom on what to do when you are behind on bills)

If you are in a season of just not seeing a way out, even after all the advice? Please. Extend yourself grace while you are in the midst. 

What can I do waiting for the next paycheck?

Financially strapped? Uncertain times ahead? Yes, I believe for many of us that is the case. Making ends meet is hard, but our attitude is valuable too.

Begin to take stock of your life with an attitude of awesomeness.

Note the comforts around you, however small, and recognize that someone has much less. Put the bills in the box until payday, and don’t let finances ruin the life in between those days. (Check out my frugal living Pinterest board for more encouragement)

Redefine what Enough is, and even when it is slim money pickings, fight to keep deciding what true wealth is.

Invite someone over and share your home, your life, your food. We don’t want to be impressed, we want to be loved. Love is a limitless commodity.

Fight to claim your peace; live a rich life of someone who has more than money.

Someone who owns joy.

P.S.  As I came back to update a few things later, it was important to tell you that though times are scary, we’ve had to lose our house, savings, etc… knowing we’d made it before with God’s help was SO important. So, I am pulling it from the archives to encourage you anew (and me too!) Current situations are making finances super crazy with unavoidable medical costs. But, that is where the foundation of trusting God reminds us that we are not alone… even when it is scary. You can read how I practice overcoming fear here

Resources to reduce paycheck stress:

• Don’t forget to check the library or thrift store for useful copies 🙂

• Money Games – Debt Freedom: The Fun Way to Get Out of Debt and Reach Your Money Goals

• Monthly Financial Planner Organizer Budget Book. Expense Tracker Notebook Journal to Control Your Money
• Home Grown Hillary has complied an awesome curated list of frugal mom blogs here
• The 30-Minute Money Plan for Moms: How to Maximize Your Family Budget in Minimal Time
• Depression Era Frugality : Tips, Tricks & Life Hacks from the Great Depression Era that We Can Use Today 
• Living on a dime on YouTube has TONS of ideas to make your dollars stretch
• Hearts Content Farmhouse has a beautiful post on frugal living with easy tips
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