The gift of a slow living lifestyle
The gift of a slow living lifestyle
Last night I made a professional decision that many freelance writers would consider unwise. I canceled my Twitter account….and my Facebook writing account.
This is considered borderline insanity in the creative world. Who in their right mind would let go of FOLLOWERS???
Me.
For years I’ve embraced a concept that recently became known as simple living, or slow living. There is a compulsion in modern times that we must go fast, faster, until we spin all of the plates off our hands and they crash down around us.
Then we can feel accomplished.
As if busy and overdone is where we find our value and can finally, finally celebrate enough. We don’t have to buy into that, you know.
We can even reject that concept and choose to live quietly. Calmly. Slowly.
The art of slow living
There is no award for the busiest, although we are often fooled into believing that there is! We greet each other with a “how are you?” and what do we often hear back?
“Oh, I am sooooo busy.”
Can I be really honest here? That sometimes makes me sad, like deeply uneasy. It isn’t that we don’t have full lives, or seasons that hold more chores/meetings/tasks/children etc.
We do! I do too! That isn’t what bothers me…
It is the weariness I see in the efforts to keep up. The hesitancy I hear in voices to admit a longing for less. Less commitment, less pursuit, less competition.
We aren’t afraid of challenge, or hard work! However, we do not want, nor need to always be the one known as busy.
So busy we can’t call our friends back, host a family in need of a simple dinner, or even attend events designed to restore our spirits.
“The more you have, the more you are occupied, the less you give. But the less you have the more free you are.” — Mother Teresa
How do I live a slow life?
Let’s fight back against being busy with the things that matter less.
Our life happens in the small moments, as well as the big ones. We don’t want to miss those glimpses into the quiet. To see our work in progress…our family joys…our needs.
In my professional pursuits, that means giving up a few social media accounts. Rethinking where I want to invest my writing time.
It means going against the flow, totally, and giving up some followers. Likes, Shares. Oh my.
Those things are really appreciated, helpful even, but I don’t write to be the most popular. I want to make a difference. Some would argue that growing platforms is necessary to do that, and it might be.
Not for me, not anymore. If people want to “follow” me, let it be because they believe in my message.
What does slow living look like?
Did you know that most writers spend crazy amounts of time, vastly more than writing, on doing what they like least?
Crafting 140 letters of carefully chosen characters, organizing tons of social media posts, creating dynamic headlines, engaging in behind-the-scenes stuff that drains the joy from their work?
That is what most books and courses and successful professionals teach. That these are necessary. The path.
Furthermore, did you know that most of them, like me, truly just want community…not fame?
Influence…because of the power of the message, not because of following a “how-to-be successful” framework? There is little time left for the reason we started writing in the first place!
Slow living for a writer
Writers get weary of being so vulnerable in our work and having it reduced to such things. There is no guarantee of success, and the mark always moves as technology changes. People are my business, not striving.
“It is not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” ― Henry David Thoreau
I am taking a risk and letting go of some extras to find the extraordinary. As a reader, I truly HOPE you will stay with me. With or without the extra social media platforms.
You can still find me on Pinterest here, or Instagram here. Two, that’s it. And the blog.
A happy, calm life is more than okay for me these days. I’ve learned the hard way that more of anything isn’t always better. Perhaps you have too…
Slow living resources you might enjoy:
- This is Home: The Art of Simple Living
- Destination Simple: Everyday Rituals for a Slower Life
- Seeking Slow: Reclaim Moments of Calm in Your Day
- The Simple Living Guide: A Sourcebook for Less Stressful, More Joyful Living
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What a great post! I’m leaning towards a simple life as well. I want to enjoy relationships more than stuff.
LeAnn, it sure can feel like a constant tug of war, can’t it? Blessings to you upon your journey ♥
I love absolutely everything you have said Christa. Thank you so much. My first loves is writing as a way to create community. You have encouraged me never to lose sight of that with the endless pressures to tweet, share, like, love and repeat.
I have a team of admins helping me run my FB support forum and we have a linked Twitter account which is a big job. I had only just made the decision to pull back activity on the Twitter account so your post was perfect timing. Thank you so much for sharing. Sam xx
And you have encouragement ME by sharing, what a great thing to have admin help, then you can spread your message even more effectively! Thanks Sam 🙂
I completely agree. With 3 kids, a husband who tends to have varied hours at work, me trying to get my home job up and going, sports, activities, homeschool…I could go on. I am so trying to figure out what we need and cut back or cut out what we can do without. I feel like we have more things that are individual than together activities. I want more US and less you, you, and you. Here, there, and everywhere! Bless you!
Hi Trema, sounds like a VERY busy life! We homeschooled as well, and I can relate to everything you say in some way> You are so wise to tune into that small voice saying “let’s come together more…”. It takes such purposeful planning, doesn’t it? It reminds me of WHY family game night was so valued in our home. Do you have one thing that everyone mostly enjoys?
http://www.christasterken.com/the-importance-of-family-night/
What a wonderful post Christa, I a beginner Bible Journal and the decision to end my Facebook account came about accidently. I reset my phone to factory setting and erasing everything on it. I forgot that I didn’t remember my Facebook password. So, I took that as a sign that God wanted me to get off and I haven’t created another one. The time that I spent on Facebook I now used to study my Bible or journal the Words.
Hi Jeannette, I loved reading part of your story! If that isn’t a fun hint, what would be? I hope you enjoy the bible journaling and don’t miss the FB too much…
If you are a beginning bible journalist, make sure to check out the posts I’ve written. Maybe you’ll be able to share what you are learning? Be blessed, Christa
http://www.christasterken.com/category/faith-and-christianity/bible-journaling-tutorials/