To be cherished is a gift worth fighting for
Who doesn’t want to feel cherished? I have waited for this my whole life, wanted it.
Longed for the safety of it.
I found it the hard way, through work. My husband and I came together as emotionally weighted teens, and couldn’t relate to each other in a way that offered this. Love? Yes.
Cherished came with time.
My husband made serious efforts to learn the value of cherishing his wife. And vice versa.
It’s a beautiful thing. And a simple effort, really.
What does cherished look like?
On a recent cold morning, I was working on a writing project. He came into my office with a mug of hot chocolate. Frothed (like I prefer it). Covered with a mound of marshmallow. Perfect.
It wasn’t the gift, but the heart behind it that made me feel cherished.
The action that prompted a busy man to stop and think, “How can I delight my wife?” Just because.
I have found it, this feeling of being special. A treasure of great proportions offered in a small package.
To cherish and be cherished can take time
Being cherished gives me even greater ability to offer it to others. And isn’t that the best part?
That receiving allows us, no…demands of us, to give it away. Extravagantly.
CHERISH, verb
1. To treat with tenderness and affection; to give warmth, ease or comfort to.
2. To hold as dear; to embrace with affection; to foster, and encourage; as, to cherish the principles of virtue; to cherish religion in the heart.
3. To treat in a manner to encourage growth, by protection, aid, attendance, or supplying nourishment; as, to cherish tender plants.
IF this isn’t your circumstance, take hope. It wasn’t ours either. Check out this post about having oppositive love languages and ideas to work through that.
Great resources on marriage:
- What’s It Like to Be Married to Me?: And Other Dangerous Questions
- The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective
- Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
- Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
- To Love, Honor, and Vacuum: When You Feel More Like a Maid Than a Wife and Mother
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Oh, I love this. I think many of us have to learn to cherish and accept being cherished. What a beautiful demonstration of being cherished and cherishing…
Thank you Mary!
“It wasn’t the gift, but the heart behind it.” Yes, oh yes! I can identify with more than a few things you’ve written here. The learning to cherish, it is a gift in marriage. What an encouraging post to read!
Thank you Missy for stopping by!
I find that I am prone to cynicism, especially in the way people treat each other. Your post reminds me that peopel still do find ways to dleight in one another in ways expected and unexpected. Thanks for softening this cynic.
You made my day Kara
Now I have that image of hot chocolate in my mind. A wonderfully written post about the comforts of deep-long standing love.
Precious post.